Personally, I’m not sure that I could date a woman with a child or multiple kids. It has less to do with the “Oh man, she was with someone else before me” or “Damaged Goods” and more to do with “I want my family to be my family and my kids to only see me as their father and nobody else.” One of my successful Uncles shared a similar sentiment and now he’s in his late 40s.
He always vowed that he would only date women who didn’t already have children. I think it’s pretty much agreed that as a man gets older, his “options” expand…unless he is a sloppy and ugly mess.
Sometimes planning a surprise may involve having to find a babysitter, having a set time to come home (like a curfew! Sometimes my schedule may not have room to include you – sometimes, mommy time and/or me time will have to come first (not always). The only games I play are with my daughter and if you are awesome enough, we may invite you to join us in a friendly game of Phase 10 one day!
I suppose this is more of a warning and this won’t apply to all single moms, but many of us who have been divorced (and times ten for the ones who have been cheated on also) will come with baggage.
That number one spot is taken and will always be a filled position.
This means that I can’t drop everything and come over for drinks.
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In my 5 minutes on the online dating scene, I had more than a few guys completely reject me because I had a kid.
We will need your patience and understanding when issues arise.
I hope I’ve scared the guys who aren’t ready to date a single mom away because honestly, single moms don’t have the time nor the luxury to put up with man-children.
I was watchin’ Real Housewives of Atlanta this past weekend in a moment of boredom (Don’t you dare judge me! This particular episode happened to be one of the few where Kandi’s mother was voicing her disagreement with Kandi’s man AJ (RIP) having 6 kids.
Even though it seemed to be agreed upon that he took care of his 6 kids, she just couldn’t get past it and didn’t want him to marry Kandi.
And though that may seem harsh or immature or whatever, I totally respect the guys that are willing to man up and know that they are not ready to date a woman who has a child; saves us both time and heartache.