We are attracted to people who “dance together with us,” psychologically speaking.
Love acts in mysterious ways, but research can help you learn some of its secrets and make yourself a more attractive love prospect.
Love is a complex mixture of biochemistry, thoughts, feelings, and behavior.
It seems to convey a “halo effect” in which we assume a more attractive person will be more successful, sexy, interesting, and fun.
The effects are strongest when we have limited opportunity to get to know an individual at a deeper level.
The stress hormone cortisol suppresses our appetite and need for sleep so we can devote more energy to bonding with our loved one.
And decreases in serotonin may make us more obsessed with one we love—in one study, serotonin levels in men who were recently in love were as low as in people with obsessive-compulsive disorder.The Take-Home Message Some aspects of attraction are subjective or outside of our control, while we can improve others with knowledge and practice.A key part of attracting an available partner is to work on our own personal growth, perhaps moving outside our comfort zone to expand our sphere of interests and relationships.Another study showed that women in love had increased serotonin while men experienced decreases.In the final stage, the hormones oxytocin and vasopressin promote long-term bonding.Studies show that men are more attracted to women with smaller waist to hip ratios—in other words, hourglass figures.